Thursday, December 29, 2011

Crossing Over to 2012

This year is about to be called “last year”, and a new year is fast approaching. I wanted to wish you a happy, vibrant, and prosperous New Year. May we take this upcoming year by force as we find and possibly create new and exciting opportunities to redeem ourselves, or make ourselves better.

This time of the year has a tendency to make us reflect, and be excited about renewing and reinventing ourselves and our spirits. I cheer on those who advocate exercise and healthy diets. But why stop there, I say add to that. Let’s get our minds, spirits, and emotions healthy as well. A Total body health and fitness for me as we cross over to 2012.

Happy New Year!
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Saturday, June 11, 2011

Hello All. I'm Still Around

Hello All.  I'm still around.  Been a while since i last blogged, but the thoughts have never quit roaring through my mind like a thunderstorm on a hot muggy night.  Glad to report that I'm still growing.  Still loving.  Still learning.  Still laughing.  Every chance i get.  I hope that you are doing the same.  Even though the saying goes "life is short, so enjoy it", Life, is the longest thing that we'll ever have.  So yes, enjoy it, every moment of it.  Slide into what's next like a baseball player sliding into home plate.

SAFE! yells the umpire.

Thursday, April 14, 2011


Today I’m reflecting on life. As I grow in age it has always been my desire to grow in wisdom and knowledge as well.  I enjoy looking back, and being able to reflect on the things of the past.  It is important to me that I have an awareness of where I am now, a comprehension of where I want to be, and a realization of where I should be.
In reflecting I want to be able to look in the mirror at the person staring back, and really know who she is, and how she became to be.  My walk is and has been very guided, by a God that is ever present.  Have I always listened and followed? No. That’s why self reflecting is so important to me; because now when I take a glimpse in the mirror, I see a woman that was once a princes, with many bumps and bruises from being disobedient, but when I look closer, I see a beautiful backdrop, in the image of a woman that is now a queen that has way more sub-dermal beauty marks than bumps and bruises; because I am a Child of God.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Marvel in Time.

“Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away, Now it look as though they're here to stay
Oh, I believe in yesterday

Suddenly, I'm not half the man I used to be, There's a shadow hanging over me
oh, yesterday came suddenly

Yesterday, love was such an easy game to play, Now I need a place to hide away
oh, I believe in yesterday”
- originally recorded by The Beatles for their 1965 album Help!

Sometimes I wish for Yesterday; but what I yearn for the most is a silhouette of a brighter tomorrow, with a call of yesterday.  Sometimes I don’t want to forget yesterday. Sometimes I need to forget yesterday.  Sometimes I have to forget yesterday, to bring on my tomorrow.

Thursday, April 7, 2011


“Like sands through the hourglass, so are the days of our lives” –NBC Television Network
 Individually, yet rapidly, days of our lives fly by, and sometimes without us noticing how fast time is really passing by.  It’s March of 2011 already! It seems as if it was just Christmas; yet summer is the season that’s peeking around the corner at us.
Time waits for no one.  It certainly is not waiting for me.  I woke up a few weeks ago, and I was 45.Where did the time go? It eluded me and my plans; for it had a plan of its own.
So in an effort to beat time's ass in this race that time started, I’m going to stand still more, watch more, listen more, exercise more,  I’m  managing my own time better, I’m saying I love you more, I’m making wiser decisions, and I’m enjoying life more.  These are just a few things of mine that I’m taking away from time.

Friday, February 25, 2011

Acts of Kindness

Today, see if you can stretch your heart and expand your love so that it touches not only those to whom you can give it easily, but also those who need it so much- Daphine Rose Kingma
I have many, many matters of the heart when I look at my family and my love ones.  But lately my own personal matters of the heart have spread far beyond the ones to whom my love is easily bestowed.
When I take a look in the local and national newspapers, I see matters of my heart increasing.  World News Tonight is guaranteed to be a tearjerker, and my heart just wants to expand.  There are so many people in need of love, or some form of love. Maybe a smile, a hug, a kind note or words of encouragement is all it takes to lift the spirits of another. What I’m really enthralled by is how every one of these acts of kindness carries with it a good old fashion dose of “what goes around comes around”; how all of these things return to the original sender after completing some sort of cycle. Need love? Give love.  Need a hug? Give a hug. Need encouragement? Be encouraging. Get the picture?
 Today I will smile and spread cheer. I will be compassionate. I will love freely and openly, and I will love much.
 Today I prepare to sow my seeds; my seedlings are called Acts of Kindness.  I expect a bountiful harvest.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Order in My Life

(ôr'dər)  Law. A direction or command delivered by a court or other adjudicative body and entered into the record but not necessarily included in the final judgment or verdict.
I am at my best when order is present within and around me. I understand why order is important to my success. It is easy for me to become bewildered, dumb-founded, and disillusioned when my life is out of order.  This scene would be similar to an uprising in an uncompromising, unruly territory.
Giving in to placing order in my life is like escaping into a world of peace, love, and tranquility. FINAL JUDGMENT is in favor of the plaintiff, me. Just the ruling I need.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Clean it up.

Sometimes paths that were once so clear become a little garbagy and cruddy.  In order for my path to be clear so that I won’t put my vision on a detour route, I have to do some cleaning.
 I have a credenza.  And there is one particular corner that gets all the weekly mail, all the information from school, all the correspondence, all the magazines that I just have to keep, because “surely I am going to read that; there’s a really good article in there”.   I’ve come to call that corner my fire hazard. It’s really not a physical fire hazard, but if I compare my mind to my credenza, a smooth beautiful piece of furniture, and compare all that gets piled onto my credenza to a fire hazard (a situation that increases the likelihood a fire may start), it become easy for me to see how all the clutter can impede escape to a safe, peaceful place in the event a fire (compare fire to the situations that may merit attention) occurs.
Once a week like Mama taught me, I have to get the broom and dustpan, the mop, the mop bucket and some, Mr. Clean, some Ajax, the lemon Pledge and a dust towel, some Windex and get busy cleaning.  Oh and let’s not forget to take out the trash (the accumulation of rubbish in our minds). That’s what’s really blocking and cluttering up our clear paths.
Cleaning house and putting things in their proper place is not that much different from cleaning our minds putting things into perspective (in their proper place). The next time my path gets junky, I’m going get up, get my cleaning supplies, to start cleaning, putting all the worthless thoughts and damaging paraphernalia from my mind in the trash.
I’m busy.  Cleaning my path, clearing up my vision.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Quit being so pushy.

I’ve seen it. At least once on the highway, once at the office, even once on a social network.  Pushy people who constantly invade others space, who possess loud-mouthed, go-ahead, over-ambitious, and aggressive ways; thinking that these qualities make them more powerful. Regrettably we have to inform you that they make you transparent.  That’s right; you’re see-through.  You’re really an underachiever in the areas that matter the most; like having a reputable character, or just having plain old manners!
You’re rude, impolite, and many times offensive.  Your uncouth ways make respectful people, who are considerate of others, aware of the depth of your unhappiness.  See they know your type; unhappy people who strive to make other people unhappy.
Stop lingering around waiting for a happy person to join you; you unhappy person.  When they smile at you, smile back, they know it may hurt your face a little, even crack it, because it’s been a while since the last time you smiled. Stop cutting people off on the highway just to get a response because you woke up angry this morning and they didn’t.  They probably would have let you over in front of them, because often times (and they know you are not aware of this unhappy person) happy people’s demeanors are equivalent to the warmth of sunshine. You remember what sunshine looks like or feel like? Probably not, been hiding behind the darkness of gloom so long, but hang around happy people a little longer, it may rub off on you.
Trade in your measuring spoon of resentfulness and envy for a cup of compassion and love. Oh and quit being so pushy.

Tuesday, January 25, 2011


 After viewing this post, this message will self-destruct. You probably should close your browser before it burst into flames or blows up.  This post would self- destruct if it were a secret message, but since this is MarClar Lillie ousting the damaging part of her mentality; please continue to read on…SAFELY.
How many times have you gone beyond reason, and sometimes what seems like beyond hope to make notions become tangible? How many times have we NOT overthrown and expelled thoughts that entered our minds that could cause us and others pain, or steal our joy, torment us and put us on paths of self-destruction? For me, I’ve done it often.
With all the wealth that we have in God, why do we exhibit self-destructive behavior? Why do we self- inflict harm or abuse towards ourselves mentally? Do we not realize that one of the many resources that we have in God is that He is a refuge in the midst of the storms? Do we realize that we really can kick crazy out when it tries to find accommodations in the recesses of our minds?
I have decided that too much of my joy and happiness have been spent dealing with my self-destructive mental behavior.  From now on, I intend to pray.  I intend to run to God, the Rock that is bigger than I, and ask that He please save me from myself, because the real enemy is the inner me.  Ask Him to please grant me peace amongst this chaos, allow me to possess a strong mind; then when I feel the unwanted guests creeping in, I’ll just put the No Vacancy sign on, and tell crazy there’s no room here right now. Note to self: Can not self-destruct.


Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Can’t we all just get along?

It appears that at every turn, there is arguing, and bickering, or heavy debating over one thing or another.  It is quite normal for human beings to disagree and have differences of opinions.  But somewhere during all the heaping of coals towards each other, and the inability or the unwillingness to gather FACTS, (not our own theory), we have forgotten that it truly is o.k. to agree to disagree, meaning you do not have to accept the opposing positions, you just tolerate them, remain on amicable terms while continuing to disagree and leave it at that. Simple, or is it?
Is it that we believe in our minds that nothing can be that simple? Could it be that when we say “let’s agree to disagree” that we really have no intentions at all of even hearing out our opposition? It’s my way or no way?
Sometimes we take a person’s rejections of our beliefs, speculations, circumstances, experiences, and our theories, as a personal attack of our character, the core of who really are.  That’s why it is important to know who you really are; can’t expect someone else to know who you are if you don’t.  When you feel whole and good about yourself, you don’t see dim lights in other’s eyes in reference to us when they don’t agree with us.  We don’t feel the fear or anxiety that causes us to look for unpleasant attributes in others, demeaning their character, in the process of making ourselves feel worthy and safe. 
Know whose you really are and have a relationship with the God you serve. Believe in something more than what you see or hear. More times than none, what we deem to be imperative really is not that important. Sometimes we can just lay it aside, and begin to learn how to just get along.

Friday, January 14, 2011

What's Your Vision

On the journey to resetting my life, one of the projects that I’ve been asked to do by Rosetta and Happy Black Women is to create a vision board.  I must say, each day with each assignment, the path gets clearer and clearer.  To see some of what I consider “inspiring” words, photos and action, or just things that make me happy, placed before me is just like dreams of mine being just a touch away.  
Live Purposefully.  That's the title for my vision board. As my prospective changes and my vision become larger, I’m sure the board will change.  I have it placed on my wall so that when I get out of bed in the morning, one of the first things I will see is my vision board.  I must say, it’s quite inspiring. 
What’s your vision? The thing that you dream about? The hallucination that keeps you walking in front of it, but it’s closely chasing you down wanting to become part of you? Take your ideas, most of which probably were a prophecy way before you existed anyway, visualize them, and make them into a mental picture, until they are no longer images in the make, but they are who you are; genuine, authentic and bona fide.

Friday, January 7, 2011


In this precious life that I have been given, my relationship with God and my family are of the utmost importance, for this is where I acquire strength.  I would love in this life to gain a higher learning and achievement in something more that the “right now”, to be able to share this learning, for this is where i will acquire knowledge and wisdom.  I love a steady and rambunctious flow of creativity, for this will help keep the mind strong, and the heart happy.  It’s a way to obtain peace and joy.  Also in this precious life, learn to communicate effectively and freely, no strings or preconceived boundaries, for this is the tool, along with forgiveness and mostly love, that will cleanse the heart.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Aha Moment

Aha moments are powerful moments in your life when clarity kicks in fiercely. Some aha moments are happy, some are sad, some are even life changing; however they occur, they move us in a way that sometimes leave us speechless, and flabbergasted.
I am working on several personal self- improvement projects that require I write down a lot of information and ideas; taking it from my mind to paper.  Right in front of me, BAM! There it is.  I have a tremendous amount of work to do to get to the point where I am satisfied with the road that I have chosen to travel, and it definitely is not going to be a road less traveled.
Aha moment came when I looked over several pages of ideas and information about me.  The pencil moved so quick and freely, that I did not even realize that I had written so much.  This looks like a lot of work, and it will be, but I am so happy that I have a plan.  Yes, while my pencil was moving unstoppably, it was busy communicating with my mind, creating a clear cut path complete with an array of solutions.
If I let my mind move freely, the rest will follow.  Aha.

Monday, January 3, 2011

On my 31 day journey to better understanding me

A couple of days ago I mentioned that I had started a 31 day challenge to reset my life.  Part two of this challenge is to complete an assignment where I list my love and hate about several categories in my life (lifestyle, health, family, relationships, finances and some others).  We had to be honest, and I was excruciatingly honest, (ouch).  For the most part the love sections were easy, but for the hate sections, some were very painful to look at once they were out of my psyche on paper right in front of me. 

But the brutal honesty brought light to some dark places that were hovering, and that needed to be uncovered.  It’s not so scary now that I can actually see what’s been hiding.  I actually feel like I can accomplish some things now that I have a clear cut path. 

I’m very grateful to God that the love sections outweigh by far the hate sections. I have a tremendous amount of work to do, but also there's a tremendous amount in my life to be grateful for.

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Dance in the rain

We can't stop the rain, we have to learn to dance in it.  Torrential rains require we upgrade our rain gear from time to time.  We get new rain boots, a heavier rain poncho, and a new umbrella, a larger one though.

Point being that we can’t stop something from materializing that God has already set in motion. We have to be optimistic and try to find the good in our circumstances; whatever they are.  We are more pliable and versatile that we realize.  We are also more resilient than we know. No we can’t stop the rain, but yes, we can learn to dance in it.

Happy New Year

It's 2011, and I would like to wish each and everyone a happy and prosperous new year.   As i start my journey into this year, i feel very inspired and energized to get going.  I am excited about opportunities that have and will become available to me. I have joined a virtual life coaching program, one of the exercises that i am taking is called "The 31 Days to reset your life challenge", a program created by Rosetta Thurman, (great mastermind, and gifted young woman).  I am determined to build on what God has already put in motion for me.  I will move from the same spot that i have been in; my seat is worn out here.  i will learn, i will live and create special moments,  and then i will relive them in my mind as often as possible.  I will try something new, and if i like it, i will do it again.  I wish the same spontaneity for you.  Be safe, be happy, be loved, and give love.  My mantra: According to my Heavenly Father, the blueprint of me is one of a wonderful design, and i plan to build on it.