Monday, June 18, 2018

We're Living in a Tutorials World.

Hey Peeps! Queen She known as Me here and this week, I’m chatting about tutorials. Earlier this year I journaled about growing daily; one of the ways to grow is to learn something often, anything. One of my goals is to try and learn something tangible every day; it amazes me how much knowledge I’ve gained on a subject or interest all because I’ve deliberately positioned myself to receive information. And sometimes, it’s fun!

I’m big into video tutorials now. Most evenings when I’m winding down, you’ll catch me on the Tube (YouTube) learning something different, something new. I run into some very interesting ones and I wanted to share five with you. If you have any you want to share, transfer some of that knowledge and drop them in the comments section below. Don’t be stingy now! Here goes.

Coop Can Cook- How to make Hibachi Dinner at Home! For those days when I dream I’m moonlighting as a hibachi chef and I want Japanes...this happens more often than I care to share.

Try Living With Lucie | Refinery29 -5 Days of Calligraphy Hand Lettering -for those days when I want to learn how to make my planner, and scrapbooks dance and come alive!

Lisa Nichols - How To Get Unstuck By Shifting Your Mindset – for those days when I need  financial and personal growth encouragement.  When I want to understand how to transform my dreams into goals, and put my goals into action.

The Domestic Geek - 5 EASY Fruit Sorbets | dairy Free Summer Desserts! – for those days when I want something good, and sweet, and I know it will be as nutritious as it is flavorful.

Carrie Rad - 7 Self Care Hacks that will change Your Life – motivation for when I want to become the best version of myself!

Monday, June 4, 2018

Remembrance.

 “If you’re as honest and fair as you can be, not only in business but in life, things will work out. I hope that people remember me not just as a good businesswoman but as a great friend — and a heck of a lot of fun.” – Glamour

Katherine Noel Brosnahan, known professionally as Kate Spade an American fashion designer, businesswoman, founder and former co-owner of the designer brand Kate Spade New York, Wife, Mother, and Friend. Rest in eternal peace.





Friday, June 1, 2018

Diary of an Introvert - A Re-Post from 2013

Dear Diary.  I have to let you know that sometimes I feel a little selfish about not being as much of a people person as most of my friends and loved ones, and sometimes it's a challenge to be in their midst for more that a couple of hours before my mind starts to wonder what new novel releases are out, or what my next scrapbook page will be about. 

You see I like to take walks, and just think.  I like to listen to the settling of the house when my children and grandchildren are not visiting.  I like putting my thoughts to paper.  I must admit I feel some kind of way when a person insist I "share my thoughts".  Excuse me, they're my thoughts, get your own! LOL.

You must wonder if I was the kid who didn't have friends, and if I am the adult who still doesn't have any; or if I was the kid who was never picked when they played Red Rover Red Rover.  Actually I have been blessed with a huge circle of friends, and I did get picked in the playground games, I just would rather have been reading a book on the bench or swings instead.  

You see, I'm an introvert. Carol Bainbridge wrote an article on About.com that explains me to a tee.  She said
  "Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around  other people. Introverts are more concerned with the inner world of the mind. They enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings. They often avoid social situations because being around people drains their energy. This is true even if they have good social skills. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, they need time alone to "recharge." When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that they either need to regain their energy from being around people or that they simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being with people, even people they like and are comfortable with, can prevent them from their desire to be quietly introspective.   Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts, not about what they consider the trivial matters of social small talk."

I'm truly grateful to God that my friends and my family love me unconditionally.  And I love them.  They have learned to recognize when I get that look in my eyes.  My mom calls it "she needs a nap" time.  I call it, "my inner me expressing me" time.  

What can I say.  I'm happy being me.  Spontaneity.  That's the word that pops into my mind as I'm talking to you Diary.  I'll try it more often.

Kindest regards,

The Introvert


Monday, May 28, 2018

7 Things I Learned As A Child




  1. Be polite – Say please and thank you.  Say excuse me. You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar; so be polite and make people want to see you come, rather than glad to see you go.
  2. Pray – I spent a lot of time in youth church; I had some emotional hurdles to jump as a child, and as a result, I learned early on to pray.  I also learned that God hears my prayers, and he answers.
  3. Be A Good Friend – My best friend and I have been friend for over forty years.  I remember when we were tots, I said something bad to another little girl who was very jealous of our relationship.  This hurt my little friend deeply, but she fought back with some harsh words of her own.  I felt really hurt, but I was more hurt by the choice I made to say it in the first place.  She forgave me, and ever since I’ve tried to be the very best friend I could possibly be.
  4. Don’t Be Shy – It can affect your self-esteem and your self-confidence. Learn to be bold, it’s okay in most instances. Just do it afraid, and it'll seem really small.
  5. Dream Big and Often – You can make them a reality, all it takes is a plan, and it’s never too late. But you have to be consistent and disciplined.  And eventually with hard work, they will become a reality.
  6. Be Creative – I didn’t have much when I was a child, but I always had enough.  I was so creative with how to make paper dolls, I drew their clothes, I made dolls out of coke bottles, and grass and crayons, I made mud pies! I caught butterflies, lighting bugs, worms, played marbles, hop scotch and more.  I never realized I didn’t have a lot.  This also helped me put pieces together (wardrobe wise), which helped bring forth my style sense! well okay, the pieces just looked nice together! LOL
  7. Be Kind - There is always someone who has more problems than you, and you never know how much it means to smile at someone who’s in pain emotionally.


Monday, May 21, 2018

Letter To My 16 Year Old Self.

Hey you!  yeah, you. How you been?  I’ve been watching you from afar and wanting to come over and speak to you, but I didn’t want to startle you.  See I’m you from the future. It’s okay; I know you can’t believe it.  I’ve learned to live with the tinges of gray peeking through, and the tiny fine lines in the corners of our eyes.  And this weight! Oh my goodness!  I know.  You would’ve never imagines us this size.  But you’d be happy to know I’m working very hard to get rid of about 40+/- pounds so the future-future us can visit in about twenty three years when God’s grace is full upon us. 

But if you have a minute, and it seems you’ve gotten over the shock, let’s talk.  I want to tell you some things that I believe will save us from a lot of worriation, stress, headache and heartache.

He aint gonna last.  You’ll take it hard when you refuse to take him back after the final straw.  You’ll grieve far too long, shed way too many tears before you realize and accept the fact that he was just not built for the long haul, and with him by your side, neither were you. Stop being afraid and move on along.  If you can’t seem to do it, then once the baby gets here in 3 years, take him, run like hell, and never look back.

The same ones that wanted to watch you drown, are the same ones God will make stand before you and watch you swim.  We have some magnificent friends; even though our circle is small, it’s powerful.  You still have those two from elementary school, and you three still huddle (only it’s over a phone now mostly) and tell each other your secrets.  Still.

We fall in love, we fall apart from the heartache of losing it.  Years following the later, God replaces generously, I might add, what we thought for sure we’d lost forever.  And we fall in love again.

We don’t like small talk, and we should’ve paid more attention to the Physical Education coaches in school; they really knew what they were talking about.  It’s so hard now to shake a pound off; it’s doable, but hard.  

Mama and Daddy are in their seventies! Oh my goodness.  They are such wonderful people now that they have grandchildren and great grandchildren.  We have grandchildren! Yup! Four and one on the way.  Our son is married!  He’s a wonderful young man.  We have a daughter!  Remember when we wanted all boys, yeah, that didn’t work out.  Erin is her name, and she has a daughter.  She’s an awesome mother, she tries hard, has a heart of gold.

Grandma, Granddaddy, Uncle Robert, Aunt Clara are all gone home to be with the Lord.  Jason, our dear sweet little baby brother, he joined them this year.  The world is very different without them.  Uncle Willie…oh Uncle Willie, he’s up there too.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.  Continue to read, and study hard.  To whom much is given much is required.  If someone or somebody is always hassling you, and we know who we are talking about, listen, that simply means you are on the right track.  Don’t spend ANY TIME trying to figure out why they don’t like you; they don’t like themselves.  And guess what? it shows.  To this day they are the same idiot doing the same idiotic stuff.  

Do what makes you happy.  We’re so laid back. You and me. We are such hippies! LOL, we’re living here, but we belong in a counterculture place like San Francisco.  We recycle…like crazy, our carbon footprint is very important to us. We’d grow anything if we weren’t so scared of insects!  And I’m natural.  Hair all over the place and I don’t care one bit. Curly hair don’t care!  

My fondest memory of us is when we would walk up the 5-mile rural road by ourselves and walk back, bare feet, and we weren’t afraid of NOTHING! Hair standing all over our head.  We were so free.  People called us country…. we were so blessed.

Oh! and there’ll be a young man that will come along when you’re twenty, the most beautiful eyes you’ve ever seen.  He’ll take you out one time, you’ll talk and talk and talk, but nothing ever becomes of it…..Until now.  Smiling.  He still has those beautiful eyes.  His conversation is more intense now.  He’s all grown up, and a helluva man.  Yeah, something’s becoming of it now. He likes me. I like him back.  

We’re okay.  you and me.  We’re okay.  I love you.  Thank you for passing on the baton, I’m about to pass it on again in about 8 years.  I’ll remember you fondly always, and I’ll write again one day.

-T. 

Monday, May 14, 2018

Five Things I Just Can't Handle

Hey all! Queen She known as Me here.  I’m a Diva journaler, keeping record of everything!  

We all have things that annoy us to no end.  It’s part of life, there is always going to be something (or in some instances someone) that just gets under our skin. I can think of at least five; I’m going to humor you and list them below.  I’d love to hear what some of your butt chaffing pet peeves are, so if you would please, SHARE! Leave a comment below.  Okay here are five for me that turn me into Joseline Hernandez screaming her phrase “I cun not!”

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1. People who have bad breath, but they must have a face to face conversation with you
I don’t want to throw etiquette out of the window and scream at you “your breath stinks!” but how dare you insult me by pretending you don’t smell it too! 



2. People who butt in conversations then ALWAYS make the conversation about them.
We were all taught at an early age in kindergarten to not butt in to conversations, it’s rude. Why oh why are you throwing your bad manners 101 handbook out of the window and pretending you don’t know any better?  The world does not revolve around you, other people do talk about things other than you, and simply put, you’re just not as important as you think you are.  Use your manners!



3. A Know It All.
Mark Twain said it best: It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” For once and for all you do not know everything, and it is perfectly fine to admit it. I will avoid you like the plague in the future if I listen to you ramble on and on just one more time!



4. People who chew with their mouth open
Regardless of what you think, the food in your mouth does not look as appealing to people as it did before you shoved it in there, and I don’t want to see it once you do, so close your damn mouth please!



5. People who waste time
OKAY, this may be my biggest pet peeve of all!  My time is the only thing I can give you, and you can’t give it back.  Please don’t waste it with your BS, please show me that you have at least 1 ounce of regard for something other than your tardy all the time ass.