Wednesday, December 13, 2017

What Are You Reading?

It’s December, and in most places around the country, it’s cold outside, so why not get comfortable, light some candles; if you like background noise while you read, play some soft music.  But if you’re like me, all you want is to be able to concentrate on the novel or whatever you’re reading in a quiet place.  Whatever your preference create the perfect reading ambience. 

I’m reading Gabrielle Union’s  We’re Going to Need More Wine: Stories That Are Funny, Complicated, and True.  Fortunately for me she created the ambience for me, because I’m lost in these pages. By the time I look up from 50 pages, the candle I lit earlier is about to burn out.  It’s just that good.

Gabrielle Union gets real about everything in her book from being called the “N” word at a young age, to losing her virginity.    If you haven’t purchased this book, or rented it from the library do so, and in the words of Tami Roman “Get Into It!”

So that’s what I’m reading, tell me what you’re reading.  Let me know how you like to read, and what’s your atmosphere like when your words come to life from the pages.

 Photo from The Reading Agency

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Minimalist in the Making.

Do this for me if you will.  Imagine a world within your home that is 100% decluttered.  

I’ll wait, because I’m sure for some, like me that sentence causes one to ponder, cogitate on, chew on, dwell on and even dream on.  A house that is 100% tidy and not overcrowded with unnecessary items is doable beyond measure.  How do I know?  I’ve just completed the #minsgame, and I let go of 460+/- items from my home within one month.  I’d like to share my journey with you. 

What is it to be a minimalist?  For the past five years I’ve been looking for a type of freedom; to be able to live with fewer material possessions, to not be bound to material things.  Six years ago a friend of mine had a blog.  He started writing about a world that would change and force every citizen into a space of unfamiliarity, a hostile takeover where people would have to learn to live off of nothing.   He asked me and several others to write a piece for the ongoing saga, and I did.  Mine was about minimalism; in fact my piece was called the Minimalist.  I’d never read or wrote anything on minimalism, but the words flowed like liquid and the story was amazing.  It was one of those “I wrote this?” moments.  I was impressed with what poured from me through writing, and it caused me to look deeper at what I’d written to see if I could live like that now without the fiction part making me live that way.  After tampering with my writers mind, a fiction became a fantasy which became a reality.

Am I the minimalist that doesn’t own a car, am I the nomad who has no permanent home?  Nope. But let me tell you what I was, so you can understand the type of minimalist I am.  I was the compulsive person who would buy on a whim, not giving careful thought or planning.  I had irresistible, compulsive desires to have things I’d never owned before.  Not necessarily huge things, it could be something as small as a kitchen gadget, or something as large as a new car. I’d figure out a way to get it.  Where did that leave me?  Broke, afraid, feeling helpless, guilty and ashamed when I couldn’t meet the rent obligation.

Please don’t misunderstand me, there’s nothing wrong with the person who owns material possessions.  However for me, I was giving a different meaning to the things I owned, and because of the turmoil it caused me I was forsaking the things that really brought me peace; my creative passions like writing, reading, learning, sewing, cooking, scrapbooking.  Being a minimalist helps me make more conscious decisions about what I choose to do with my money; it frees me to use my time wisely, it gives me the freedom to choose what surrounds me.  I live in the moment more.  I can pursue my passions. I can focus on me as an entire creative being.  I see more of me daily, as I am now focused on experiencing real freedom to grow into the woman with purpose and power versus the woman bound with limitations.

In my daily life, if I purchase a piece of clothing, once I am home before it goes in my closet a piece comes out and is donated.  I do not purchase anything, until what I have is gone. I am a huge recycler; everything goes to the recycling center to possibly be re-purposed.  

After my participation in the #minsgame, including my daughter and granddaughter’s things, there are 33 pieces of furniture currently in my home.  I’m positive within the next year, it will be tremendously less; got something new coming down the pike in 2018. I’m conscience about the 33 pieces because when it’s time to make a move, it should be quick and efficient.

I’ve started a new minimalism challenge for the month of December, called #monthofminimal.  It’s a 30-day checklist.  Looks like fun, however I will say if you’re an experienced minimalist, you’ve more than likely done all 30 of the tasks!  It is a great introduction to minimalism though; for me a minimalist in the making, I’m going to do it anyway.  Can’t hurt.  Mins away!

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Hair Buzz

Everybody’s buzzin about Sanaa Lathan's beautifully shaven head/ big chop in preparation for her role in the upcoming Netflix adaption of Nappily Ever After.  Isn’t she gorgeous! 

courtesy of Google

Ladies we are not our hair.  So many times we get obsessed over hair styles and how to do them to make them look like the YouTube clips, or we become hair product junkies and we have more hair products on the shelves than we do grocery in the pantry.  It’s not that serious, IT’S REALLY NOT THAT SERIOUS.   

I’ve gotten questions from people about what products I use, how do I get my hair to do this or that. Now I’ve watched my share of YouTube videos, and I love em!  However at the end of the day my mission is and has always been, get the most, for the cheapest. Get the most benefits for my mane without breaking my pocket.  I did the big chop two years ago.  I’ve never been a product junkie, I’m somewhat of a minimalist in my hair care products, and I concentrate more on the daily hair care routine; in doing so I have come to find five products that work together well and that I use:  

· Shea Moisture’s Raw Shea & Capuacu Frizz Defense Shampoo and Conditioner,
· Kinky-Curly Knot Today Leave in Conditioner,
· Shea Moisture 100% pure Jamaican Black Castor Oil, 
· Eco Styler Black Castor & Flaxseed Oil Styling Gel, 
· Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Frizz-Free Curl Mousse

That’s it.  These are the only products you’ll find in my cabinets, my stash.  These products for me moisturize, fight frizz, and structure my curl pattern.  What I’ve found as with anything, we have to be consistent in the routine, get to know your hair, become real acquainted with your strands.  For instance, when the seasons change, get a different moisturizer (use up the one you have first! LOL) and the results will be fab.  Be Happy Nappily!

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Gone Conspiracy Theory Wild

Hi Huns!  We’ve all heard of conspiracy theories and wondered whether or not there was any truth to them eh?  I can’t be the only one who reads this stuff... Can I?  Any who, jump on the bandwagon and read some of these; some are funny, some are downright ridiculous, and some will make you go hmm. 

First of all what is a conspiracy theory?  A conspiracy theory is a belief that some covert but influential organization is responsible for a circumstance or event, and explanation of an event or situation that invokes a conspiracy without warrant.  So why am I writing about these?  Because my loves sometimes I catch myself staring at the ceiling at night time and counting sheep doesn’t do it for me as quick as it does for my two year old granddaughter who’s snoring happily in the next room.  So yes, these help me tumble off the deep end into a pool of sleep until my weak bladder wakes me and shuffles me down the hall to the restroom.  Okay that’s an over share, however here are a couple of interesting conspiracy theories I’ve read about.

The New Coke.  I’m always reading about food and drinks, always, and this one was very interesting to me. The New Coke was manufactured between 1985 and 2002 remember?  A theory claims that the Coca-Cola Company deliberately changed the formula to an inferior formula with New Coke with the intentions of either driving up demand for the original Coke product or permitting the reintroduction of the original Coke with a new formula using cheaper ingredients.  Supposedly this new formula was preferred in taste tests of nearly 200,000 consumers. The then President of Coca-Cola Donald Keough rebutted this charge saying “The truth is, we’re not that dumb, and we’re not that smart.”   Hmmm.  Well Coca-Cola , the New Coke tasted a lot like the classic Coca-Cola that had been diluted with water, lots of water.  I missed having that noisily release of air from my stomach (burping really loud) after just three, maybe four swigs of the soft drink.  Oh and the burning in my nostrils after the belching, well that’s the southern way!  I was elated to have the original back, so are you sure this wasn’t your plan all along?  Come a little closer…..(whispering)  it worked if it was.  I purchased cases after the classic was reintroduced.  However it still didn’t quite have it’s original “make me burp loud and burn my nostrils” taste.  Hmm.

Paul McCartney is dead.  Yep, how many of us have heard this urban legend?  It says  that Paul McCartney died in a car accident in 1966.  He was supposedly replaced with a look-alike and a sound alike.  The only evidence supporting McCartney’s death are clues found in the Beatles recordings..  People have stated when a song is played backwards, they can hear concealed  lyrics like “Paul is dead, miss him, miss him” and on the cover of the album Abbey Road, because McCartney is the only Beatle barefooted and out of step with the others it is presumed it is not him. Hmm.  I think he’s still here amongst us, but…….

The next time I’m restless and can’t sleep or bored, I’m reading up on the one that’s says the Queen of EVERYTHING, Queen Bey, Ms. Sasha Fierce (Beyoncé Knowles-Carter) is a clone.  Yep, that’s what I’m gonna read.

If you have any theories you’d like to put out here, let er rip Tater Chip!  And share with us.  We’d enjoy a good read.

Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Thankful Tuesday

Wassup Peeps!  Today is Tuesday; thankful Tuesday is what I'm going to call it.  Today I thought sharing the lyrics to Queen Jill Scott's spoken word song Say Thank You would definitely hit the spot....It did for me.  Enjoy.

I used to be stuck
I used to be stuck
How ‘bout you?
Inside a lie
That you know ain’t near
Near the absolute truth
Feel it all in your membranes
And deep in your tissue

But you keep
You keep ignoring the signs
Listening to it happening to you again songs
And put your alarm on

Inviting new dumb shit
And more loss of peacefulness
Everybody can use a little help sometimes
C’mon you know things ain’t moving right
Ask for correction
Ask for direction
Ask for protection
Since you want to feel like you’re you
Say thank you

Cause you know your request is filled
You will see
So act accordingly
Live like you believe
And say thank you

In the air
Head down
Knees on ground
And a silent whisper
Out loud

Somebody say thank you Hey!
You hear that?
Thank you thank You!
I wish you would
Just say thank you
Thank you

It’s the only thing

Thank you

Monday, May 8, 2017

Be Happy Today! Giggle Some.

Happy Monday everybody!  I’m one of those people that used to ask “what’s so happy about it? Monday that is?”  Well I’ve changed my demeanor about Mondays.  No Monday blues or feeling sad because I have an entire work day or work week ahead of me, No ma’am.  Instead, I choose to be happy about it; I’m going to be one of those people who scientists say are happy because they choose to make happiness among their top goals in life.   Okay then…. If I have to incorporate change, then why not be humorous about it.

NOW, I’m not saying that I will still be happy by lunch time HOWEVER I’m going to give it a try to at least make it through the morning!  So I thought you could help me do that by allowing me to share just five things (cut me some slack! I gotta start off small) with you that I’m happy for this morning.    Here goes.

1. I woke up this morning with all my abilities intact- I can still curse like a sailor so watch out cause I can happily do it today.  And because of number two below, I remember ALL the curse words from the curse word dictionary.  Plus I learned some new ones.  

2. I didn’t have menopause brain fog- So if you crossed me on yesterday I still want to retaliate this morning because I didn’t forget what you did!  Stop playing with your life like that!
3. Thanks to Netflix I’m all caught up on How to get away with Murder…..WHY WES SHONDA?  Why Wes? Dammit.

4. I know why you threw shade at me!  It’s because you were scared of my light!!  It’s okay, sometimes I’m scared of it too; especially when I wake up in the mornings, and #2 from above applies to the day.  Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase “PULL UP”

5. I’ve been told there are benefits to being happy like a better social life, popularity, looking and feeling younger, and so on and so on.  OKAY.  My question is, and it’s all because I’m so happy right now.  Can’t I just have a glass of Gewürztraminer and we call this a day already?  I mean seriously!

See this isn’t working as well as I’d hope.  So in closing my people, in the words of Bobby McFerrin “don’t worry be happy” Just do that.  That on the other hand might work for all of us.