Tuesday, May 16, 2017

Thankful Tuesday

Wassup Peeps!  Today is Tuesday; thankful Tuesday is what I'm going to call it.  Today I thought sharing the lyrics to Queen Jill Scott's spoken word song Say Thank You would definitely hit the spot....It did for me.  Enjoy.

I used to be stuck
I used to be stuck
How ‘bout you?
Inside a lie
That you know ain’t near
Near the absolute truth
Feel it all in your membranes
And deep in your tissue

But you keep
You keep ignoring the signs
Listening to it happening to you again songs
And put your alarm on
Sleep

Inviting new dumb shit
And more loss of peacefulness
Anybody
Everybody can use a little help sometimes
C’mon you know things ain’t moving right
Ask for correction
Ask for direction
Ask for protection
Since you want to feel like you’re you
Inside
Say thank you

Cause you know your request is filled
You will see
So act accordingly
Live like you believe
And say thank you

Open
Close
Kneel
Stand
Hands
In the air
Head down
Knees on ground
And a silent whisper
Out loud

Somebody say thank you Hey!
You hear that?
Yeah!
Hey!
Thank you thank You!
I wish you would
Just say thank you
Thank you

It’s the only thing

Thank you

Monday, May 8, 2017

Be Happy Today! Giggle Some.


Happy Monday everybody!  I’m one of those people that used to ask “what’s so happy about it? Monday that is?”  Well I’ve changed my demeanor about Mondays.  No Monday blues or feeling sad because I have an entire work day or work week ahead of me, No ma’am.  Instead, I choose to be happy about it; I’m going to be one of those people who scientists say are happy because they choose to make happiness among their top goals in life.   Okay then…. If I have to incorporate change, then why not be humorous about it.

NOW, I’m not saying that I will still be happy by lunch time HOWEVER I’m going to give it a try to at least make it through the morning!  So I thought you could help me do that by allowing me to share just five things (cut me some slack! I gotta start off small) with you that I’m happy for this morning.    Here goes.

1. I woke up this morning with all my abilities intact- I can still curse like a sailor so watch out cause I can happily do it today.  And because of number two below, I remember ALL the curse words from the curse word dictionary.  Plus I learned some new ones.  

2. I didn’t have menopause brain fog- So if you crossed me on yesterday I still want to retaliate this morning because I didn’t forget what you did!  Stop playing with your life like that!
3. Thanks to Netflix I’m all caught up on How to get away with Murder…..WHY WES SHONDA?  Why Wes? Dammit.

4. I know why you threw shade at me!  It’s because you were scared of my light!!  It’s okay, sometimes I’m scared of it too; especially when I wake up in the mornings, and #2 from above applies to the day.  Gives a whole new meaning to the phrase “PULL UP”

5. I’ve been told there are benefits to being happy like a better social life, popularity, looking and feeling younger, and so on and so on.  OKAY.  My question is, and it’s all because I’m so happy right now.  Can’t I just have a glass of Gewürztraminer and we call this a day already?  I mean seriously!

See this isn’t working as well as I’d hope.  So in closing my people, in the words of Bobby McFerrin “don’t worry be happy” Just do that.  That on the other hand might work for all of us.  


Monday, April 24, 2017

6 Nuggets for Happiness



HAPPINESS is a mental or emotional state of well-being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.  -  Wikipedia

Mental or emotional state of well-being.  That seems like a lot to ask for let alone thinking we can obtain in the world we live in today. It’s so chaotic sometimes, and it’s difficult to carve out routes to ensure we have mental or emotional well-being.  I have 6 little nuggets that come to mind right off the bat that help me daily.  It’s a struggle, but it’s doable.  Here they are.

1. Appreciate what God has given.  It makes me happy to know that I am mentally able to appreciate all things that God has given me.  He gives me provisions, hope, security, and dominion.  I am loved by Him.  I am content.  I am extremely blessed.

2. Execute the power of choice.  Didn’t know it was a power?  Let me tell you, oh yes! It is.  The ability I have to choose what gets to me and how I handle it is amazing when I exercise the power I have to choose.  I choose to let go of all the B.S., I choose to keep moving when others say I can’t.  I choose to be happy when others can’t function on a daily basis without having animosity towards me…..I choose to love and pray for them anyway.  Is it sometimes hard?  Yes.  Is it doable?  Yes.  And afterwards it’s a release, and the heaviness of being bound by unforgiveness is no longer mine to carry.

3. Believe in myself.  If I don’t who will?  If I believe, I can achieve.  All I have to do is push myself out of the way and like Nike says, just do it.  My will, determination and the belief in me is more than enough to make all my dreams a reality.

4. Stay positive.  Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”  Whatever we dwell on mentally, directs our mindset.  We are what we think.  It’s a choice we can easily make; use the kill switch on the negative and reinforce the positive.

5. Love yourself.  Loving me and all my flaws is a fantastic way to get a head start on learning to love others and accept their flaws.  It’s empowering.  It gives me an appreciation of who I am, and whose I am.  It helps me to forgive so I can heal.  Remember, God is love.  When I think about that alone, and the feeling I get from within, that’s how I want to feel all the time, even in the midst of uncertainty and chaos…I love on me.

6. Be compassionate.  Something has to move us.  Move us to help someone who’s sick, who’s hungry, who’s in trouble, who’s homeless, who needs someone to talk to.  Ask “can I help you”.  I’m not saying jump in with two feet and just put yourself in a situation that could be detrimental and turns out not to be helpful at all but a burden, but I believe God puts nuggets in my path daily, actually hourly where I can help, even if it’s my smile used to brighten someone’s day.

And there you have it, six of my many nuggets to help me navigate the waters in life.  I'm adding to my list daily, but these are a great start to help jump start you.  Enjoy.


Friday, March 17, 2017

Happy Curl Happy Girl

Hi everybody! I  hope you’re having a splendorous day thus far.  Wanted to talk to you about one of the most popular topics around today-black natural hair.  

I remember back in the day when Angela Davis and Pam Grier sported their afros.  I use to think in my little mind “them some bad chics”; even their hair has power!   Even though they sported their fros to reflect the political sentiments of their time, the natural hair movement of today is focused on encouraging women with African ancestry to celebrate, embrace and enjoy the natural characteristics of their kinky, curly, or coily hair texture. 

I recently embarked on the natural hair journey after toying around with the idea for many years.  Some of my excuses for not going natural was “ what happens if I have to go into a meeting, and my hair is not straightened? Or what happens when I work out and I get frizz, and it won’t behave?  How will I tame it?  Will it look to “natural” for a work environment, or the best one, there are limited styles when you have natural hair.”  The real reasons why it took me so long to cross over and ditch the creamy crack (hair relaxer) is because for one, I didn’t want to take time to manage my hair, and two, I’m tender-headed as all get out!  Yup I am.  Unbeknownst to me, my natural state is much easier to manage than natural hair roots with relaxed ends.  

So because I’ve learned a few things in the last 19 months about this natural mane of mine, I thought I would share my top 10 things every naturalista needs!

1. Sulfate and paraben free shampoos and Hydrating Conditioner  – Sulfates and parabens cause frizz beyond belief!  Don’t use em.  They act as fillers in the bottle, don’t need em to fill my hair with frizz.  Hydrating conditioners will give you intense moisture, and manageability.  Kicks the dryness to the curb.
2. Professional hair cutting shears – Now don’t go broke on these.  I found a really inexpensive pair at my local beauty supply.  These you’ll need to keep your hair trimmed to promote healthy hair growth.
3. Denman Brush – The best brush around when delicately handling or forming your curls, coils and twists.
4. Bobby pins – You gotta get up close and personal with your mane, and learn how to do an up-twist or a bun, and these little suckers here are a must.  Conair secure hold  has the best ones!
5. Satin bonnets and pillows - How will you protect that style at night-time?  Cotton wraps drain your hair of moisture, and they break your hair, especially those edges.  Satin helps to keep the frizz away and your hair full of volume while you sleep.
6. Alcohol free gel – No alcohol means no drying out the hair.  Avoid it.  I find that Eco Styler Gel works well for me.  There are hundreds of great gels out there, so don’t stress just relax and find one that suits you.
7. Hair oil- This is used to lubricate the hair shaft, helps to give your hair a nice natural shine, and can relieve dryness.
8. Leave in conditioner-Nourish and moisturize the hair, prevent split ends and breakage-(make sure the first ingredient is water!
9. Curl cream- These will help activate and define your curls.  Like the hair gel, there are so many great curl creams out there.   Take your time and find one that suits you.
10. Hair ties – You want those cute pull back pony tails, so you have to use hair ties that don’t crease, are not too tight, and that won’t damage the hair.  Snapee hair ties are the best.  These snap on the ends to deter hair tangles and breakage.

Hopefully a newbie can take this list and feel somewhat armed for their new natural hair adventure!  If you have tips you can offer, please share.






Friday, March 3, 2017

I Punched Back and Feel Like I Won

Hey guys.  I’ve emerged from deep, deep under the covers where I’ve been buried since Tuesday with guess what?  a cold; honestly it could have been the flu.  In either case I ended up with antibiotics and 500 mg Ibuprofen for my killer body aches and monster headache.

The one thing I wanted to share is the great results I had with doing a detox bath.  I got to a point where the aches subsided and my spirit said “cleanse yourself from these aches; it’s within your reach and means to do so at home.”  Thank God I was obedient, I feel  much better.  Because I’m a newbie to Detox baths of this extent, I went to Youtube and watched a video from FitLifeTV  Yogi Erin Motz had some great ideas and suggestions as well.  
   
What you’ll need:
2 cups of Epsom salt
1 cup of baking soda (yup, pull it out the fridge and put it to work for you)
¼ cup of ginger ( you can use as little or much as you want, depending on your tolerance)
Essential oils: they called for 10 drops of two, Lavender and chamomile.  I only used Lavender oil.  I say it’s your choice.  Different oils have different healing properties, so whichever one suits you, go for it.

Directions:
Shower first.  This bath is for detoxification and relaxation purposes, and to me if you shower first it works better.  Fill your tub with hot water, as hot as you can stand it.  Be careful with this part, because water too hot can cause you become overheated…don’t want that.  Put your ingredients in, stir to help all of them dissolve.  Once it’s full, get in and submerge yourself to your neck.  This video instructs you soak for at least 50 minutes; that’s a long time especially if you are a newbie, so 20 minutes at least is enough to extract toxins, any extra time is when the body will begin to absorb the minerals.  I did 45 minutes, but let me say this, you will sweat your ass off because of the added ginger and it will get hot!

What the bath does:
Epsom Salt and baking soda has sulfate in them; when this is absorbed in the skin, it rids the body of toxins.  The ginger has anti-mucus properties, a natural decongestant and opens the pores.  It also make you sweat, which is good; means your pores are open.  

Afterwards:
At first I felt extremely hot and just wanted to cool off, but as I began to drink PLENTY of water I felt better.  Next time I will drink water before and after, so I can flush out toxins.  I felt a little sick at first when I got out of the tub, so I will definitely modify my next detox bath. Also because my face is where I sweated the most, I immediately did my normal daily face wash routine afterwards, and I could feel the intenseness from the cleanser deep down in my skin, because why? Pores were wide open.

 As with anything, please, please do some research on the ingredients, how they may interact with YOU and if needed consult with your physician before participating in this type of detox, because remember this is a home remedy.  DO NOT do this detox every day; maybe once a week until you can SAFELY make this a part of your personal routine. As I said I will definitely adjust some ingredients, and take some more precautions that I feel suit me.  But in the end, you will punch back at a cold and potentially kick it’s ass like I did. 



Tuesday, February 28, 2017

10 Things you can’t do when rent is due!


Yes, this is me emptying my disturbed psyche.  I follow this comedian LaToya James, Redbone2fly, (@toya_turnup) on Instagram and her hilarious compilations of that time of the month when RENT DUE!

Some may call it mindless entertainment, however we all know there are some out there who seriously contemplate doing other things with money versus paying rent.  So I’ve come up with a list of ten things that absolutely cannot be done when RENT IS DUE!

1. Purchase the bundled deal of Malaysian hair.  No deep wave, no body wave, no straight, no curly, NONE of that.  Rent due

2. Eat steak and shrimp at the most upscale upmarket steak house chain.  You gotta go to Kroger and get some marked down tilapia.  Rent due

3. Get the gel nail manicure from the nail salon.  You gotta get the $8 manicure; actually you can’t get a manicure.  Rent due

4. Ball out in the local strip club.  Sorry, can’t make it rain tonight, gotta put that five hun towards the rent. It’s due

5. Shoe shop.  No sneakers, no sandals, no boots (oh the DSW boot sale), no heels, and no flats.  Not even from the sale section.  BOGO is still off limits; you still gotta buy.  Rent due

6. Be the town’s cake daddy.  Can’t be consumed with that female this week.  You’ve abandoned your friends, and they’re the ones who will help you get back on your feet when you give all the women money without looking for anything in return.  Go home, spend time alone.  Watch t.v.  ALONE.  Rent due

7. Happy Hour.  That’s right.  You can’t do happy hour.  “oh but a glass of wine is usually $8, but during happy hour it's reduced to $5.”  AND? It’s a discount, it’s not free, which takes us back to number 5, you still gotts to pay.  Rent due

8. Go to the movies. $21 dollars in some theaters just for a ticket, without popcorn.  Go to Redbox, rent it for $1.50, or Netflix it for $7 a month.  Watch that sucka all you want.  Sit it down.  Rent due

9. Clubin.  Not tonight.  Tell your home girl go on without you; unless her rent due too, and in that case you both staying in.  Rent due

10. No cruising on the strip.  No driving back and forth on the same street.  You’re adding to the congestion of the area anyway.  You can’t afford to be part of the cruising culture tonight.  You better saved that gas for next week, cause rent due.