I spent a lot of time away from home this past weekend traveling with my better half. We got a chance to visit and spend time with a lot of friends. Had a fantastic time. For a moment The Diva Journals and the reason I started it were temporarily buried in the recesses of my very busy mind. But then, I observed on several occasions, on several different days, the behavior in which women display towards each other. Some behaviors were deep acts of kindness and love shown towards each other. The kind of love that lets a woman know "hey, I got your back in this random, chaotic motion which can sometimes be your life". That love will sustain you through some pretty hard times in life. Then there was that other emotion I saw displayed, jealousy.
Yes! I called it an emotion, because according to my good friend Merriam-Webster, jealousy is an emotion and it typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. Wow. The green-eyed monster is eating us alive women. If ever we are going to have any kind of unity on any kind of level, we have got to start recognizing and understanding the damaging traits and devastating results of jealousy.
Sistas please understand, and hear me well. Insecurity, fear, or anxiety are NOT friends of ours, and neither are the people whose existence in our lives are the center of which these horrific aforementioned nouns adjectives, and verbs breathe life and take form from. Get rid of them. And if this means letting go of that someone who always seems to bring anything except peace into your life, then get rid of that DRAMA.
We need to, as a matter of fact we have to save each other from our attitudes, not enslave each other with them. We have the ability to lift each other up, instead of knocking the hell out of each other.
When we look at ourselves in the mirror, we have an opportunity to see several things; what we look like, what we use to look like, and what we want to look like. And we don't have to look deep inside ourselves to see the difference in all three, we already know the difference. We are very smart creatures. We know when we want to change, when we need to change, when we should change, and if we can change. Nobody has to beat us over the head to let us know that we are sometimes screwed up; and a lot of times we are screwed up because of another person's behavior close to us in our lives. Either way, it's time out for the excuses we use to mistreat each other.
It's time to take out the garbage in our lives ladies before we get trash bugs, because like some people in our lives, they too are predators. We can be better to each other. You recognize the hurt some one else has caused you, start recognizing the behavior you exhibit towards others, and how you can potentially hurt people. This is not hard to do. Treat each other like you want to be treated, and kick that something or some one in your life to the curb when it becomes a stumbling block to your success.
Reach for something higher than someone else's dreams, reach for your own, and if you don't have any, get some! Be yourSELF! and if you don't know who or what that is, guess what? it's o.k. Just strive to be better, and know that EVERY WOMAN was created with a purpose and a plan. No exceptions. If you are still alive, that means there is still a purpose and a plan just for YOU. Start creating a welcoming atmosphere for what could be the master plan for your life. Kick damaging behavior patterns in your life. Before you turn the corner let people see the light of your countenance approaching before they see you. Treat each other well. Love each other well, or at least try and understand the reason why it may be difficult for you not to.