Monday, August 27, 2018

Let's Play Dress Up

Happy Monday peeps! It’s Queen She known as me here, and today I’m journaling about dress for success and what I would want mine to look like. 

What does dress for success mean? Well it’s the modern terminology for “dress for the job you want, not the job you have”, or clothes maketh the man…woman” meaning what you wear matters in everyday life.  It’s Impression management, which is a conscious or subconscious process in which a person will attempt to influence or persuade the perception of other people about themselves, another person, or a thing.  So, without further ado, here is what my dress for success would look like if I didn't have a business casual attire daily.



From bottom left clockwise:

Necklace-Black and Gold beaded necklace-Amazon
Bracelet-Sailor's knot bangle bracelet/goldtone-Kate Spade New York
Purse-Savannah Large Saffiano Leather satchel in pink-Michael Kors
Pants-Seventy Women's Straight leg dress pants-Walk into Fashion
Blazer-Long and Lean-fit lighweight blazer-Banana Republic
Blouse-Pleated shell-Anne Klein
Shoes-The Loraine loafer-Sam Edelman

Drop a photo in the comments section and let me see what your daily attire is.  Have a great week!

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

A Tribute To Mama

It’s 5:30 AM Sunday March 13, 1966, the 72nd day of the year 1966.  An extremely cold morning.

The US president was Lyndon B. Johnson. Between Eastern Taiwan and Japan’s westernmost island Yonaguni an 8.0 magnitude earthquake had just taken place, but in a rural town of Georgia an 18-year woman  was giving birth for the first time. That 18-year old woman was my mom.  Fifty- two years, five months, 8 days, 15 hours and 22 minutes ago (plus or minus), a legend was born!  Me. LOL.  But I don’t want to talk about me, I want to talk about that 18-year old.

First off, I never would have imagined in a thousand years that my mom is only 18 years older than me.  She is the wisest person I know.  I remember when I was a child, she used to say to me “I know and see everything that you do, so don’t be a bad girl; I got eyes in the back of my head” I believed this until I was twelve years old.  I finally figured out it was humanly impossible to have eyes in the back of her head, but I still didn’t know how she figured out everything I did, and even some stuff I was contemplating doing.  She also used to tell me I know everything about anything, so if I had a question, or somebody I knew had a question, I would tell em, just ask my mama, she knows everything.  That part I still believe.

She’s very special.  I never met another human being who even comes close to who she is.  She grew up in circumstances that I would not have been able to grow up in; those circumstances would have been tests that I can assure you I would have failed, and miserably.  She lost both of her parents before I was born, and she was raised by her oldest sibling and only sister, who had six boys of her own to raise. She told me many times, that when it came time for her to give birth to me, she didn’t even know where the baby was coming from, because having those talks, sex talks, was considered a taboo, which was frowned upon and extremely objectionable.  The only other thing that was frowned upon more was the fact that my dad and she was not married, but still I came into this world through a willing vessel.

I have seen her walk through many trials and tribulations.  She made what I’m sure of, many mistakes; I know this because I am now a parent, and I made / make plenty of them, because no one is perfect. I never figured out how we had so little, but I had an abundance of everything I needed. I didn’t have everything I wanted, but I never went without.  

As you can probably tell by now this is a tribute to my mama.  She celebrated her 71st birthday August 18th.  She’s truly an amazing woman whom I admire and adore.  There have been too many to count by hand the number of times I’ve used her as inspiration.  I thank God every day of my life for her.  Happy Birthday Mama.  I love you.



Monday, August 13, 2018

Article Share*** Alert! Good Read Find

Hey Peeps! its' me here, Queen She known as Me.  You know by now, especially if you've been reading with me for a while that I am a reader of all things good!I found this interesting article, and I want to share.  Journaling is a love of mine; I've been doing it since I was a little girl and my mom would go to the dollar store to replenish my stash every three to four months, as I was writing and doodling everything in sight down in my journal.  I do realize now she probably was doing that to keep me from nagging her with the millions of questions that I could throw at her.  Anyways it work.  It took me to places that would take my mind off of the troubles of preteen hood.  And even though I was extremely shy, it gave me a safe place to put down my thoughts. This article was written by Thai Nguyen with the Huffington Post's Huffpost, the Blog.  All the benefits he shared below in his article sums it up best. Enjoy.




THE BLOG 
02/13/2015 08:21 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017

10 Surprising Benefits You’ll Get From Keeping a Journal


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Image Credit: Pixabay.
When it comes to keeping a journal, stereotypes of Sweet Valley Highand Napoleon Dynamite quickly come to mind; “Dear diary” is reserved for the high-school sweetheart or awkward recluse. Others see writing merely as a tool, a pragmatic means to an end, certainly without value in and of itself.
But science continues to dissolve skepticism. For those sitting on the fence, these 10 benefits of journaling will convince you to start writing.
1. Stretching Your IQ
A hot topic, but strong cases support the ability to change your IQ. A report by the University of Victoria noted that “Writing as part of language learning has a positive correlation with intelligence.”
Journaling is an exploration of language, you’ll have the natural urge to search for new words and increase your vocabulary. The report goes on to say, “One of the best single measures of overall intelligence as measured by intelligence tests is vocabulary.”
2. Evoking Mindfulness
It’s the buzz word for good reason. There’s a strong connection between happiness and mindfulness. Journaling brings you into that state of mindfulness; past frustrations and future anxieties lose their edge in the present moment.  It calls a wandering mind to attention, from passivity to actively engaging with your thoughts.
3. Achieving Goals
Journaling often includes your dreams and ambitions, yet the idea that scribbled words can help achieve goals is understandably fanciful. But consider building a house without a blueprint. That makes more sense.
Writing goals signals to your brain “this is important.” Your reticular activating system (RAS) then flags relevant opportunities and tools to achieve that goal. More detailed goals provide a psychological blueprint, and increases the likelihood of achieving them.
4. Emotional Intelligence 
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to perceive and manage your emotions, and that of others. Journaling is an outlet for processing emotions and increases self-awareness. This internal familiarity becomes a bridge of empathy, you’ll better intuit and understand what others are experiencing.
Being able to get on the same page with someone is a mark of emotional intelligence, and allows for a much deeper connection.
5. Boosting Memory and Comprehension
There’s a unique relationship between the hand and brain, sparked by the composition of thoughts and ideas. Words are representations of ideas; the formation of letters and causes the mind to compose or re-compose ideas while journaling. This strengthens previously covered information and forces you to engage in cognitive recall.
6. Strengthen Your Self-Discipline
Setting time aside to write, whether morning or evening, is an act of discipline. And discipline begets discipline. Like a muscle, the more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes. And habits formed in one area of life have a tendency to spread; as keeping your office clean leads to keeping the bedroom tidy, your daily practice of writing will domino onto other healthy habits.
7. Improve Communication Skills
“Writing has critical connections to speaking” according to a Stanfordreport. Journaling is a form of written communication, albeit to oneself. Nonetheless, the subvocalization of tracing your written thoughts naturally translates in actual vocalization.
Of course, anyone journaling must have a deliberate aim to tidy up their writing in order to see benefits in their verbal communication. But making that decision during writing will benefit your speaking.
8. Healing
Expressive writing is a route to healing — emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Dr. James Pennebaker, author of  Writing to Heal has seen improved immune function in participants of writing exercises. Stress often comes from emotional blockages, and overthinking hypotheticals. He explains, “When we translate an experience into language we essentially make the experience graspable.” And in doing so, you free yourself from mentally being tangled in traumas.
Studies have also shown that the emotional release from journaling lowers anxiety, stress, and induces better sleep.
9. Spark Your Creativity
Julia Cameron’s “Morning Pages” has become the panacea for unlocking creativity amongst anyone and everyone. Our struggle isn’t whether we’re creative, it’s how to let it flow.
Her powerful tool is simply to write without thinking — “stream of consciousness” writing. Beyond overcoming writer’s block, stream of consciousness writing brings out thoughts and ideas you never knew you had in you, and loosens up your expressive muscles. She recommends three pages, done first thing in the morning. Including even one page as part of your journaling will get your creative juices flowing.
10. Self-Confidence
Journaling about a positive experience allows your brain to relive it. And reaffirms your abilities when the ugly head of self-doubt appears. The release of endorphins and dopamine will boost your self-esteem and mood. These reflections can become a catalog of personal achievements that you continue to go back to.
As you work to incorporate journaling into your life, remember the elephant is best eaten one bite at a time. Patience and consistency are crucial in forming new habits. Begin writing perhaps three days a week, first thing in the morning or before sleeping.
Thai writes from the intersection of psychology, philosophy, and spirituality. Reflected in his work is the message that life is not about what you get, but who you become. Follow his work at The Utopian Life.

Thursday, August 2, 2018

Story Time: A Diva's Thursday Morning.


Thursday Humor!  This might be a blogpost that many people can relate to. I'm going to tell a GIF story this morning that mirrors my morning thus far.  These GIF's are from GIPHY.  Enjoy.

So you wake up this morning like....
wake up coffee GIF by good-morning

Grab lunch for the day out of the fridge.......
dog human eating GIF











And finally make it out of the house 20 minutes later than anticipated...
forrest gump running GIF


Stop and do two errands...
music video running GIF by Dr. Dog

Battle traffic...
driving los angeles GIF by James Curran

Yell at the person who cut you off...
scared denzel washington GIF

Answer the cell phone with the hands-free set...
car look GIF by Audi

Find that good parking space at the office....
london space GIF

Make it to your desk with one minute to spare...

work running GIF

Looking like a million dollars, working like you’ve been there for two hours already...
busy jim carrey GIF

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Random Ramblings: A Re-post from 2014

This has always been one of my favorite post on the Diva Journals.  I read it today and I chuckled...loudly!  These are some of my random ramblings, I hope you enjoy.

Having the dream you're  falling, and you hit the ground.

You're walking down stairs, and you miss the last step.

When you stop walking, but your your high heels don't and there's nothing to hold on to.

When you look on your arm and a bug is the guest of honor on it.

When you cut your fruit to eat it and the hairy white stuff beat you to it.

Needles.

Paper cuts that bleed, and bleed, and bleed, but don't immediately hurt.

Your favorite ice cream and the freezer burned it.

Candles, no matches

Wine, no corkscrew

Fried rice, no soy sauce

Ring up your groceries, realized you left your money in your other purse. This actually happened to me a week ago. Lol

Ask the ATM for receipt, it's out of paper.

Reading a good book, finding printed mistakes.

Car in front of you is driving slow, and runs the yellow light, now you're stuck at the red light.  WTH?

Dented can goods.

Writing random shit.

Monday, July 30, 2018

Journal Entry #1000


At this point in my life I imagine I would have been happy coming back home from traveling the world, eating good food, retiring from some fantastic job that I would really miss, and living in the Hamptons beach house Dianne Keaton’s character lives in, in the movie Something’s Gotta Give.  

I didn’t have this vision thirty years ago, so now I’ve become a bucket list dreamer creating something wonderful for myself; a road map so to speak to living my best life.  I don’t wanna wake up one day and there’s no time left to do the things I’ve always wanted to do or not be able to imagine doing them.  So, I’m going to write it down (in this case journal it) and see where it goes.  

I’m gonna share my bucket list, (the short one) (yes, there is a long one!) but I’m thinking I’m gonna take it a step further and share my anti-bucket list as well, yeah share all the things I never want to do in life!  Who the crap does that?  I do. That’s who.  Here we go.

Some of My Bucket List
Zipline
Play a game of paintball
Indoor skydive
Have spaghetti and wine in Europe
Watch the sunrise & sunset in one day
Meet a world leader
Tear down a house, and flip it
Be published
Act in a play
Have a vegetable garden
Make soap
Be debt free
Hire a public speaking coach
Visit a winery in California, make my own bottle of wine
Attend a poetry slam
Run a 5K
Own Tiffany jewelry
Get flash mobed 
Meet Oprah

Some of My Anti-Bucket list
Do anything with snakes (don’t wanna touch, see, hear, none of that)
Go to a haunted house ( I’ll hurt you for real if you scare me!) LOL
Go on a roller coaster (nope.  Not me)
Surfing (can’t drink that much water so no)
Jump off a cliff (hmmm. not)
Go hunting (don’t want to eat the animals…don’t want to kill the animals)
Go skinny dipping (don’t want to show the goodies)
Bungee jumping (ha ha. Right.)
Tongue piercing (nope, piercing is for my ears only)
Jump out of an airplane (why though?)
To not hold a book (love the feel of a book in my hands…everything doesn’t have to be electronic)
Be buried alive (hell no)
Work with elephants (yeah, no. they’re too big)

Drop me some ideas from your bucket list down below in the comments section, or better yet just share yours!










Monday, July 9, 2018

Dear Grand Mamas. A letter to you.

Dear Grand Mamas: 

Let me start off by saying how much I miss you all.  Life is so different here without you.  Words can’t even begin to describe how different.  I’m a grandmother now; I have five little nuggets.  I can’t believe that either.  Grandma Mary, and Aunt Clara, mama is starting to look exactly like you, you would be so proud of her; she has four children, nine grandchildren and eleven great grandchildren.  Whaaat?  Yup.  Grand mama Daddy is looking just like you these days, with a hint of granddaddy.  I know he misses you tremendously, I see it in him a lot.

I know you’re walking around heaven all day, I bet there is nothing like it.  I bet you’re welcoming loved ones in.  

I think of you often; Grand mama I just shared with Daddy how when I was a young teenage girl you got me all the way together about my attitude and wanting to spend your money.  I just had to have the same conversation with my twelve-year-old granddaughter.  There truly is nothing new under the sun.

Aunt Clara, I’m starting to live off the earth again, just like it was when you raised me for a little while and you grew everything. I wish i could see those gardens again.  I do drink out of a mason jar now, every morning! I had to come back to my roots.  I’m enjoying the journey.

I wish readers knew how special you all truly were.  So many memories. So much love.

I now know a grandmother thinks about her grandchildren day and night, even if they are not with her and will love them in a way they will never understand, and how our love knows no distance.  I'm fifty-two and I don't think I'll ever outgrow your love.  I'm hoping my grandchildren won't ever outgrow mine.

I’ll always remember.  Always, and I’ll Always love.  Always. You.